“I thought being hard on myself would make me better.”
I hear this all the time. Clients often believe that self-criticism is what keeps them sharp, driven, or emotionally contained. The assumption is that if they just push a little harder, feel a little worse, or hold themselves to impossibly high standards, they’ll not only feel okay—they’ll do better, achieve more, and finally become the version of themselves they think they should be.
Significant weight loss isn’t just a physical change; it can shift dynamics in ways that many couples don’t anticipate. A partner’s changing body, self-perception, and lifestyle habits can bring up unexpected emotions for both people in the relationship.
Have you ever found yourself saying, “I know why I feel this way, so why can’t I change it?” You might be able to pinpoint the root of your anxiety, overwhelm, or emotional patterns, yet despite all this insight, nothing seems to shift. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many people intellectualize their emotions, talking about them without actually feeling or processing them. While insight is valuable and necessary for self-growth, it’s not always enough to shift how you feel.
If you’ve ever felt unsure about whether your relationships are truly healthy, you’re not alone. Many people struggle to identify what’s normal versus what’s harmful. By understanding the foundations of healthy relationships—mutual respect, boundaries, and self-care—you can create meaningful, secure connections that support your well-being.
Transforming self-talk is a journey, but affirmations can act as stepping stones toward greater self-esteem and emotional well-being. By challenging negative patterns and fostering a kinder inner dialogue, clients often find themselves feeling more confident and resilient, both in their personal lives and in their relationships.
Over the years, “survivor” has become the preferred term in trauma work. It moves away from the idea of victimhood and emphasizes strength, resilience, and progress. But while “survivor” is often more empowering than “victim,” it still has its limitations. For some people, surviving isn’t enough.
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