“For years, I thought being a good partner, friend, or employee meant putting my own needs last. I told myself I was being selfless. But quietly, I felt more and more depleted—and I couldn’t understand why.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
“I thought being hard on myself would make me better.”
I hear this all the time. Clients often believe that self-criticism is what keeps them sharp, driven, or emotionally contained. The assumption is that if they just push a little harder, feel a little worse, or hold themselves to impossibly high standards, they’ll not only feel okay—they’ll do better, achieve more, and finally become the version of themselves they think they should be.
You sit down to create, but nothing flows. You’re stuck, faced with a blank page, a silent studio, an untouched canvas, but no inspiration. You feel like you’ve lost a piece of yourself, that beautiful ability to create that you’ve always possessed. If you’re a creative who’s lost that spark, meditative art might be the way back to yourself.
You might know the feeling. You’re at a dinner party, in a meeting, or with old friends–technically, you’re not alone. But emotionally? You feel completely unseen. As a licensed psychotherapist specializing in relationships, boundaries, and emotional wellness, I often hear from clients who are stuck in this in-between space. They’re surrounded by people yet starved for real support.
Learning how to identify and process your emotions allows you to make better decisions, connect with others more authentically, and feel more at ease in your own life. High IQ might get you in the door, but high EQ is what gets people to trust, respect, and stay connected to you.
Have you ever felt anxious, overwhelmed or disconnected for no clear reason? Understanding Polyvagal theory helps you work with your nervous system instead of against it.
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