Therapy for new mothers
Explore your identity as a new mother while honoring your own needs.
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The experience of motherhood can differ from person to person. After giving birth, you might find yourself in the twilight zone that some people refer to as “the fourth trimester.” This new adjustment period can be hard for both you and the baby.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed during this time , especially with the need to rearrange your schedule around the baby’s care. Fluctuations in hormones can make it difficult to sleep , especially when your baby keeps waking up crying. Mood swings are also common due to a dip in progesterone and estrogen levels. You may also find it difficult to breastfeed, whether due to a low supply of milk or other complications. Some new mothers may also struggle with their self-image and self-esteem, due to weight put on during pregnancy.
What you may be experiencing as a new mother
These are all normal and valid concerns as a new mom. Guilt and anxiety can sometimes trick us into thinking our feelings aren’t valid, and that we should be able to solve our problems on our own. If you have a partner, they have a responsibility to care for the baby — and you — as well. Many couples find that a new child puts a strain on their relationship, with both parties too busy with feeding and diaper changes and a million and one other little concerns to give each other the attention they once did. However, it can be difficult to bring your concerns up to your partner.
It can also be difficult to open up to your friends or family, especially when you’ve seen other mothers flourish under similar circumstances, making you feel as though you shouldn’t be struggling as much as you are.
Depression, tearfulness and or unexplained feelings of sadness
Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
Trouble sleeping despite exhaustion
Loss of interest in hobbies or activities you previously enjoyed
Excessive fatigue or feeling like you have zero energy
Sudden mood swings or feeling unable to control your irritability and anger
Changes in appetite and eating habits (eating too much or too little)
Brain fog (difficulty concentrating or remembering things)
Difficulty bonding with your baby and feeling guilty about it
Intrusive thoughts about harming yourself or the baby
In some cases, new mothers who experience unrelenting and distressful symptoms may suffer from Postpartum Depression (PPD). Postpartum depression can rob you of your joy, energy and sense of worth. You may want to consider seeking therapy geared towards new mothers, especially if your struggles are impacting the quality of your daily life or you’re having trouble feeling better on your own.
How Therapy Can Help New Mothers
Therapy for new mothers can give you a safe space for venting your problems to a listening ear. If you feel hesitant about confiding in your partner or your loved ones, you can confide in a therapist without fear of judgment. Therapists have a vested interest in listening to your needs and finding ways to help you move forward. A good therapist not only explores your thoughts and feelings , but also any physical symptoms (e.g. headaches, aches and pains, trouble sleeping, etc.) that may have risen alongside them.
Our NYC therapists can help you develop healthy coping mechanisms for managing the stress of motherhood. It can also help you identify negative thought patterns and behaviors that make your stress worse. If you struggle with tending to your own needs because you focus on the baby instead, therapy can be a gentle reminder for self-care — when you honor your own needs, you can be in a better place to meet the needs of others around you.
Aside from examining your own feelings and thoughts, therapy for new mothers can also help you look outward and reconnect with the people in your life you feel like you’ve grown distant to. Therapy can teach you valuable communication skills that can make it easier to ask for support from the people around you, so you’ll have a shoulder to lean on whenever you’re worn out.
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Therapists Who Specialize in Therapy for New Mothers in NYC
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What Does Therapy for New Mothers Look Like?
There’s no one standard for what therapy for new mothers looks like, because the best approach to therapy depends heavily on what will work best for the individual’s needs and circumstances.
Some may respond well to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which involves identifying negative thought patterns and behaviors and changing them in order to improve physical symptoms. Others may benefit from somatic therapy, which combines talk therapy and mind-body exercises to better understand and process your emotions. Some may also benefit from mindfulness practices, which revolve around exercises that emphasize staying in the present moment instead of being overwhelmed by past experiences and worries about the future.
Each individual is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy. If you decide to start therapy, you and your therapist will explore which approaches are best suited to your specific needs.
What if I’m Not Ready To Start Therapy?
.It’s not always easy to make the decision to see a professional. If you’re on the fence about starting therapy but still need support to feel better now, here are some helpful tips:
Check out Postpartum Progress and Postpartum Support International — These two websites are geared toward mothers in the postpartum phase, offering many support groups and educational resources for those in need of them. If you’re hesitant about reaching out to people in your life, it can be helpful to connect with strangers that are going through the same struggles.
Relax in small ways — When you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to step away and take a breather for a minute or two. Simple activities like breathing exercises, five minutes of meditation, a few yoga poses, or even listening to a favorite song can help alleviate some of the stress and leave you better prepared to tackle the issue.
Look after your physical health — Regular exercise and a healthy diet can help improve your mood over time. Find ways to incorporate physical activity into your daily routine, like taking a short walk in with the baby the morning. Remember that it’s okay to ask for help from your partner or loved ones with daily tasks like household responsibilities and preparing food.
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Motherhood isn’t always smooth sailing, and we’re here to provide you with the support you need. Reach out today for a complimentary consultation with one of our therapists who specialize in therapy for new mothers in NYC.